As everyone can relate, the human experience vacillates between looking inside and looking outside; between harmony and discord; between clarity and clutter; between positivity and judgment; between confidence and insecurity; between yin and yang. And, as we’ve discussed the last few weeks, this vacillation can also be described as moving from the true Self (the realization of ONE shared being) to the separate self (the transient experience of being a personal entity or ego), then back again and again. This week, I’m going to stay on topic and appeal to coaches, teachers, counselors, psychologists, parents, employers, preachers, friends, and politicians—the charismatic leaders among you. For you leaders, I’m going to reveal just how essential it is to understand that this vacillation between true Self and separate self is both normal and can never be manually overridden.
Let’s start with the separate self or ego. By definition, it:
A. Feels separate or alone. B. Feels the need to fix this sense of separation.
That is, the separate self constantly feels the need to ease its sense of separateness in a quest to feel secure. So, when it comes to leaders, the separate self wants to offer strategies, techniques, orders, rules, punishment, personal opinions, and even indoctrinate others as it tries to scratch and claw its way back to the wholeness of the true Self. But this cannot work, and only fortifies the separate self, since, again, the true Self cannot be found manually or on purpose.
And that is where leaders often go wrong.
Because they don’t understand that the vacillation described above is normal (don’t understand the human experience), they fall for the temptation to fix what’s not broken—to the extreme detriment of those under their purview or care. In fact, every dictator in the history of human beings has succumbed to the lure of the separate self or ego. They’ve desperately tried to fix others in order to fix, or feel secure, themselves.
On the other hand, here’s what happens when leaders understand the transient nature of the human experience and, thus, don’t succumb to the lure of the separate self or ego when it appears:
A. The true Self fluently takes its place. B. From the perspective of the true Self (one being), no personal entities exist who could be offered strategies, techniques, orders, rules, punishment, or personal opinions; there’s no one TO indoctrinate.
And what remains? Simply LOVE. And love, without effort, knows exactly how to lead.
Thank you for reading, Garret