There’s No End to Suffering

Imagine a world in which no one tried to fix their own suffering.

Give yourself a minute . . .

Do you see a world at war?

Or

Do you see a world at peace?

Oh, I know. You feel, believe, and have been taught that suffering must be managed or willed away. Every expert under the sun claims to have the method, activity, motivational mantra, routine, practice, or substance promised to lead to positivity or peace of mind.

But honestly, in your experience, have any of these ever worked? Or do you employ methods, find relief, suffer again, then repeat this very cycle?

Why, then, do you—or better yet, we—keep seeking an end to suffering? 

Could it be that we can’t find one? 

After all, for thousands of years, the smartest minds in the universe (prophets, clerics, doctors, neuroscientists, researchers, professors, physicists) have done their best to solve the riddle of suffering; tons of theories have been proposed. If suffering could be terminated or even managed with any consistency, wouldn’t we have figured it out by now? 

And even more critical, could it be that the suggestion that suffering must be fixed and the subsequent attempt to fix it are actually contributing to the disharmony of our culture? Could it be that looking outward for the cause and cure for suffering leads to blame and our widespread habit of lashing out? 

What if to solve the riddle of suffering, we must consider the opposite approach? 

What if to live without suffering, we must first be willing to live with suffering?

Again, nothing else is doing the trick.

The next time you suffer, don’t run. Don’t cope. Don’t temporarily distract yourself. Don’t look for the cause or the cure.

See what the experience of living with suffering actually brings. 

In the absence of resistance, perhaps you—and the world—will find peace.

Garret

The Stigma

Have you heard of the “stigma” around mental health and the crusade to overcome it?

It goes something like this:

“Mental health is a subject that people feel embarrassed to speak about. But we all face these types of challenges; insecurity is not something to hide. Let’s encourage each other to be brave and seek help when we need it.”

Right off the bat, let me just say that this so-called stigma is nothing more than a belief. A belief that you need not subscribe to. In my experience, we’re not embarrassed to speak about this issue any more than we’re embarrassed to speak about any other issue. The question, then, is what really keeps us from seeking the guidance of mental-health professionals when insecurity strikes?

Could it be the methodology of the mental-health profession in general? 

A methodology that centers around treating, fixing, changing, coping, controlling, or managing the psyche or separate self. Could it be that we possess a keen sense that something about this methodology just doesn’t add up?

I’d say the answer is yes. 

In the back of our minds, there’s a knowing that, because a human being or separate self is nothing more than a transient image or refraction of Consciousness, it is our very nature to be insecure (to come and go). Thus, any attempt to fix insecurity is futile.

In fact, we should be commended—not stigmatized—for this knowing and subsequent refusal to seek help in a methodology built on misunderstanding. 

The bottom line is that we cannot fix who we’re meant to be. From the limited perspective of a human being, insecurity is fundamental. So you are right to avoid any methodology that attempts to make a body-mind secure. You are right to not try to treat temporary sensations of fear and lack. You are right to turn away from experts who attempt to hoodwink you into the belief that there’s something amiss if you don’t feel resilient, confident, or mentally tough. 

You know as much as anyone. Don’t let others convince you that you need to be fixed. You cannot escape insecurity. But you can explore, and understand, what the body-mind actually is (a transient image that comes and goes within Consciousness). 

This exploration will display insecurity in a whole new light. 

 Garret




No One is Broken?

In today's self-help community, New Age spirituality movement, and some branches of psychology, the in-vogue refrain: “No one is broken,” strikes at the heart of perhaps the most overlooked element when it comes to teaching, coaching, or counseling:

That is, who is this “one” that is not, or cannot, be broken?

Without clarification, confusion is a pretty sure bet.

Why?

Because, by nature, the individual, personal, or separate you or me is indeed broken.

Or more aptly described: divided, insecure, transient, not even a thing.

We’re merely images or refractions of who we truly are: the infinite Being, Consciousness, that is indivisible and, yes, cannot be broken.

It’s simple. Trying to convince a separate self that it’s not broken or resilient is like trying to teach a shadow to walk.

We are not broken; broken we are. Who or what are you speaking to?

Call the separate self out for precisely what it is: an agency that yearns to be whole again. And then point to the wholeness from which this agency springs.

No one is broken.

Right on.

What is “not two” can never be split.

Garret