The Heart of Resilience

If I was to do the math, I’m pretty sure that this would be the most-frequent question I’ve received over the entirety of my career:

“How can I handle both physical and emotional pain, or suffering, with more ease?”

In fact, sometimes this question is framed within the context of mental toughness. Such as, “Why are some people so gritty, durable, or tough?”

In my experience, though, sifting through materialistic ideas like “grittiness” or “toughness” clouds the answer. Toughness brings fleeting benefit at best. And trying to will oneself through pain, if it were possible, is not the least bit easy.

What, then, lies at the heart of resilience? 

Consider this:

Resilience is the effect of a deep knowing that pain, rather than being located within the body (or separate self), is nothing more than a transient modulation within the true Self or the infinite space we call Consciousness.

This is why, for instance, animals handle injury or bumps and bruises with ease. They don’t identify themselves as the body—how would they know to do that? Pain appears, for sure. But it’s not personalized. Pain belongs to the whole (Consciousness), and is then fluently absorbed into the whole. Plus, Consciousness has no problem with pain. Consciousness knows all things that modulate or appear within it, including injury or physical and emotional pain, as itself.

The bottom line is that those who believe that the true Self is equivalent to the body, or that who they are is the body, will grab onto pain, feel pain, own pain, complain about pain, be influenced by pain, suffer with pain, and, ultimately, attempt to will themselves through pain. Mental-toughness techniques, substances, distractions, constant visits to gurus or experts, even Zen-type practices such as yoga or meditation are the most common of vehicles.

And while this article is not meant to suggest that the experience of pain, suffering, injury, and sickness are not real, or that attempts to treat sickness are foolhardy, it does provide an uncommon direction regarding the heart of resilience.

That is, from the perspective of Consciousness, there’s nothing to treat. Whether emotional or physical, pain need not be conquered. The heart of resilience is the knowing of our own Being. That we are one with whatever appears within, and no matter what appears, we are perpetually well.

Love,
Garret

How Far We’ve Strayed

Look how far from reality we’ve strayed . . .

In our culture and lexicon today, “I am a finite and limited person” is considered normal. “I am an infinite and eternal Being” is considered heresy.

“I am a true individual” is normal. “We are truly one” is heresy. 

“Consciousness comes and goes” is normal. “The body comes and goes” is heresy.

“The body is conscious” is normal. “The body is an image within Consciousness” is heresy.

“The body (or brain) has or contains thoughts” is normal. “The body is a thought” is heresy.

“The body has experiences” is normal. “The body is experienced” is heresy.

“The body is resilient” is normal. “The body is insecure” is heresy.

“The body has wisdom within it” is normal. “The body is the veiling of wisdom” is heresy.

“Who you are is born and will die” is normal. “Who you are is the eternal space in which all things are born and will die” is heresy.

“Come together, unite, or connect” is normal. “We are not separate” is heresy.

“Believe” is normal. “Look to experience” is heresy.

“Be positive” is normal. “I am the one who welcomes all thoughts and feelings” is heresy.

“Focus on a narrow target or goal” is normal. “Swing away” is heresy.

“Find your purpose” is normal. “Explore who you are” is heresy.

“Personal control, responsibility, or burden (and thus blame)” is normal. “An absence of burden brings harmony” is heresy.

“Seeking greatness” is normal. “The true Self is ordinary, standard, basic” is heresy.

“Love is found in a person” is normal. “Love is revealed upon the dissolution of the personal” is heresy.

“Beauty is found in an object” is normal. “Beauty is revealed upon the dissolution of objects” is heresy.

“Doing research or pursuing data-driven evidence” is normal. “Self-inquiry” is heresy.

“Investigating how objects interact (cause-and-effect)” is normal. “Investigating the very nature of objects (what objects are made of)” is heresy.

“Curing symptoms or problem-solving” is normal. “Getting to the primary cause of all problems (the belief that ‘I am a separate self’)” is heresy.

“Love as a unification strategy” is normal. “Love as our very essence” is heresy.

“That all experience takes place outside of you, separate from you,” is normal. “That all experience takes place within you and is made of you” is heresy.

I could go on and on and on, but let’s just end with this:

What appears to be real is unreal. What appears to be unreal is real. Always.

How far we’ve strayed.

Garret

Your Secret Agenda

Here’s an admission: I spent a good portion of my first forty-five years with a secret or hidden agenda driving my behavior. And today, occasionally, this duplicitous habit creeps back in.

What is a secret agenda?

You’ll recognize it when described. It’s pervasive and so hard to detect that virtually all of us possess and promote secret agendas without even knowing it.

In short, doing good, serving others, or even exploring spirit or God with a “secret agenda” of personal benefit—gratification, enriching yourself, overcoming private issues—is what this article points to.

A secret agenda is:

  • Giving a homeless person ten bucks so you can feel better about yourself.

  • Delving into the nature of Consciousness (Peace, Happiness) so you can become more peaceful and happier.

  • Using the so-called “law of attraction” to attract money into your bank account.

  • Having a preacher or cleric speak to your team for the purpose of winning games.

  • Promoting the military in order to galvanize the support of your voters.

  • Tweeting about your client’s successes under the guise of, “My message is so important, I must get it out there any way I can.”

  • Praying to God for your personal salvation.

  • Writing an article about secret agendas, with the secret agenda of acquiring adulation, followers, or future business.

A secret agenda, at its root, appears when the ego hijacks our natural pull inward toward Source (this pull may be experienced as curiosity, a desire to know, or insecurity) and spins it outward, toward desperately seeking in the relationships, activities, status, or achievements of the objective world.

Now, I’m not blaming you for your secret agendas. We’re all pretty much programmed to aggrandize and benefit the separate self by any possible means. And, again, it’s so easy to miss.

Just last week, for instance, in talking about our son Ryan, who's endeavoring to work his way up the ranks as a college or pro baseball coach, Liz, my wife, innocently said: “All Ryan has to do is keep showing up as the Love that he is. You never know how that will come back to him down the road.”

See what I mean? The most caring person I know uttered this refrain innocently oblivious of the agenda behind the second sentence. The first was textbook. Then, the ego swept in with the intent of turning love into some self-fulfillment strategy. But love can’t be used that way. The ego survives and thrives by taking us on mind-bending searches to nowhere. On the contrary, “showing up as Love,” that’s the true Self in motion; Ryan expressing who he is rather than seeking to reinforce or enable the ego—who he is not—through his coaching.

My message today is stark, and essential. While the true Self has no agenda—it is complete as itself by itself—you and I have been conditioned to lack, raised to be separate, we’ve been emboldened to seek (some of us have even been taught to find wholeness through more “high-minded” behaviors such as meditating, serving others, saving the world, or worshipping God). But check in with your own experience. Behaviors with personal intent lack integrity or virtue, thus they’ve yet to bring, and will never bring, peace.

Instead, now that they’re no longer secret, when our secret agendas creep in, let’s call them out for just what they are: ego trips to suffering. You simply cannot find peace or happiness in the objective world. And yet, as Liz knew of Ryan, you can powerfully and movingly express yourself in that world.

Absent of a personal, hidden, or secret agenda, know yourself as Love, take a stand as Love, and go.

Chips fall as they may.

Garret

We Will Survive

Last week’s article, https://garretkramer.com/articles/the-only-way, generated an unusual amount of inquiry, ridicule, and pushback. This paragraph in particular:

“. . . Absent of the recognition of the Being we share, not only will a marriage or team ultimately collapse under its own weight, the same will happen to the human race. We simply cannot survive under the materialistic paradigm. It’s a paradigm of disunion, thus conflict. But please don’t fear. While the belief in separation or that objects have an actual independent existence and value will run its course, Consciousness or our infinite and eternal Being will remain as is—perfectly whole; completely undisturbed.”

This week, let’s delve into my contention that while the materialistic paradigm is destined to run its course, and, perhaps, so will life as we know it—the true Self or Consciousness will always remain as is. We will survive.

But first, to be clear, while I wrote last week’s article cognizant of the potential backlash—one reader even asked, “Garret, do you care about life on earth?”—the article was not meant to imply that I would be content if life as we know it were to end or “implode.” I was merely indicating two potential outcomes. If we don’t eradicate the belief that we are 7.5 billion separate selves living on a planet of separate objects—i.e., materialism or the materialistic paradigm—we will indeed implode. And if we do eradicate this belief, we won’t. But (and this is the crux of it) either way, nothing can diminish, harm, or change the infinite and eternal space in which all things appear; nothing can wound or wipe out the true Self or Consciousness. Who we are is indestructible.

So, this being the case, why do so many of us continue to act from fear or apprehension? Why do we keep coping, finding temporary relief for our suffering, and then coping again through materialistic tools and methods? Why do we desperately seek to become whole when nothing that occurs in experience can make us un-whole? After all, isn’t fighting an ultimate demise that can’t actually occur nonsensical? Virtually everyone is running about today trying to protect themselves or find salvation—and for what purpose?

To exemplify this pervasive lack of understanding of who we are and what we’re made of (and thus our tendency to act from fear), many are on a mad-dash mission to save themselves by saving the environment or planet. But, as I’ve insinuated before, they’ve undertaken this mission void of knowing that the planet, and everything on it, is made of the infinite and eternal space within which it appears. The planet doesn’t need to be saved. Its very essence is infinite and eternal. Our very essence is infinite and eternal. In fact, it’s the belief that who we are is a finite and limited separate self that causes human beings to do damage to the environment and each other in the first place.

Imagine, then, a world in which a Consciousness-only paradigm prevailed. Imagine if the overwhelming majority of us understood what our bodies and all things essentially are: images appearing within Consciousness. Imagine if the overwhelming majority of us understood what our bodies and all things are essentially made of: infinite and eternal Consciousness itself. Would we damage the planet? Each other? Would war be possible? Highly unlikely.

Now, alas, look in the opposite direction. Turn your attention to the materialistic model that presently prevails. Although a separate self or object has never been found, the overwhelming majority of us is certain that separation is real. That all things are bona fide independent entities. And even worse, that each separate self—a self that’s never been found—bears the burden of fending for its own personal survival. How are we faring under this model or paradigm of conflict and confusion? You tell me.

In fact, this confusion between image/appearance and reality is why, rather than continue to seek relief in objects, or delving further and further into the material world, I’m asking you to join a community that’s strictly committed to exploring the underlying beliefs that inform the less than desirable manner we’re treating each another, not to mention animals and the planet, today. As you know, we’ve tried hundreds of behavior-modification techniques and motivational strategies. We’ve tried rules, laws, and discipline. We’ve tried substances. We’ve tried protests. We’ve tried activism. We’ve tried religion. We’ve tried perpetual scientific investigation into how objects interact and work. We don’t need to try harder. We need to hold still and uncover what objects, including human beings, are made of. The current dog-chasing-tail model, materialism, is failing us. It cannot stand. We are imploding.

As I said, though, do not worry. No matter what, who we truly are remains whole. The true Self is everlasting. It will stand. And, as opposed to acting from the misapprehension, insecurity, and fear that spawned the backlash mentioned above, this is the truth that experience is crying out for us to examine: It is only by knowing ourselves—the realization that we will survive, and the inherent freedom this realization spawns—that we will generate a more prosperous, harmonious, and loving world. 

In other words, recognizing our infinite and eternal nature, our Divinity, is ultimately our greatest gift to humanity.

You see, I do care, very much so, about life on earth. But it’s finally time to stop putting the cart before the horse and become much more interested in what life is, who we are, and what it’s all made of.

Love,
Garret

The Only Way

In spiritual communities like this one, it’s not uncommon for folks to spurn the use of the word truth.

For instance:

“No one knows what’s true.”

“Truth is a mystery.”

“Who are you to say what is true?”

“Words can never accurately describe truth.”

“Your little mind can’t know truth, so don’t bother trying to find it.”

Sound familiar?

But the thing is: Everyone knows what’s true. The truth is so basic, so unpretentious, so ordinary, that it’s hiding in plain sight. And it’s the only thing that all 7.5 billion of us have in common.

What’s true?

Don’t take my word for it, I simply write the following in order to help initiate your own exploration, but here you go . . .

Nothing has ever been experienced outside of Consciousness.

Nothing has ever been experienced other than Consciousness.

Nothing has ever been experienced by something other than Consciousness.

As mapped out in last week’s article, Consciousness is the essence of all objects, creatures, and events. Consciousness is the essence of you and the essence of me. We've never known the absence of Consciousness. Consciousness has never left your side or mine—not one single time.

The truth, therefore, is that we share Consciousness. Or, if you prefer, we share an infinite and eternal Being. We are all images of this Being, within it.

And, frankly, it seems a shame that the truth is so plainly hidden, a shame that exploration in the direction of truth is avoided and sometimes discouraged or even disparaged.

Why a shame?

Because knowing that we share a Being and that all objects within this shared Being or Consciousness are made of the same “substance,” knowing that this substance makes up an indivisible whole, knowing that lines of separation cannot actually be found, knowing that it’s all one, is the true starting point for honest, moral, or ethical behavior. It’s the spirit of love. The heart of beauty. It’s our only chance to do unto “others” as we would have them do unto us. It’s the only way the world will find peace.

And further, the knowing of our own Being is the only way for harmony and trust in our marriages, families, friendships, teams, companies, and communities. It must be the foundation. A life built on the shaky ground of materialistic beliefs and methods—such as connection (why would what is not separate ever need to connect?), communication (to whom would what is not separate communicate?), managing feelings or moods (what are feelings and moods made of?), survival of the fittest (what are we made of?), or even the worshipping of a separate God—is essentially doomed to implode. Beliefs and methods are personal. They are not true. The foundation or truth that we share a Being is the only way.

In fact, if we continue down the path of these types of materialistic or personal beliefs, we will implode. Absent of the recognition of the Being we share, not only will a marriage or team ultimately collapse under its own weight, the same will happen to the human race. We simply cannot survive under the materialistic paradigm. It’s a paradigm of disunion, thus conflict. But please don’t fear. While the belief in separation or that objects have an actual independent existence and value will run its course, Consciousness, our infinite and eternal Being, will remain as is—perfectly whole; completely undisturbed.

One last reminder: As I said don’t take my word for any of the above. Explore for yourself. Discover the nature of reality; the veracity of experience. Keep going until you strip bare all of your beliefs and arrive at the only thing left standing.

Then, when you find what’s true for you and for everyone—always and under all circumstances—let’s compare notes. Rather than run in the opposite direction of truth, I look forward to holding still and checking out if my “the only way” matches yours.

Garret

We Are One—the Meaning

If you struggle, as I did for years, with the meaning of these types of assertions:

“We are all made of the same substance or essence.”

“Look within for the answers you seek.”

“You are what you seek.”

“Separation is an illusion.”

“Who you truly are does not share the limits and destiny of the body.”

“I and my Father are one.”

Then this article (and exploration into the meaning of these types of assertions) is for you. 

And to begin our exploration, I’m going to ask you to simply do this:

Imagine the vast space in which all things appear . . .

Let’s call this space “the universe.”

As you probably know, no one has found an edge to this space. The universe is infinite.

As you probably know, while objects seem to change, grow, wither, appear, disappear, or live and die within the universe, the universe always remains the same. The universe is eternal.

As you probably know (or as far as you know), no object has ever been sighted outside of the universe. No object has entered the universe from somewhere else or exited to somewhere else. There is no “outside” of the universe. The universe is all there is.

So far, so good? 

OK, cool. 

But let’s slow down a bit, because our exploration and the following questions are about to get tricky . . .

If all objects are contained within this infinite and eternal space we’re calling the universe—and, again, there is no outside of the universe—wouldn’t this mean that all objects are made of the universe? Wouldn’t all objects be made of the space within which they appear?

Tricky, right? That’s because you and I have been conditioned to see all things including this illustration from the perspective of an object, a body, within the universe.

So, rather than from the body, let’s take a stab at viewing this illustration from the perspective of the universe itself.

In other words, suspend belief for a moment—you, my friend, are the universe. 

Now, look inside yourself. Those objects you see have never appeared anywhere but precisely where you’re looking. So, isn’t the actual substance of all objects made of you?

Interesting, yes?

Even more so—since all objects are made of you, wouldn't this mean that all objects are one with you, the universe? Wouldn’t this mean that all objects are simply modulations of the universe within the universe? Wouldn’t this mean that all objects are the universe?

Let’s circle back. What do you make of these assertions now?

“We are all made of the same substance or essence.”

“Look within (the universe, not the body) for the answers you seek.”

“You are what you seek.”

“Separation is an illusion.”

“Who you truly are does not share the limitations or destiny of the body.”

“I and my Father are one.”

And let’s throw in:

“I am the universe.”

Oh, and let’s also note that the universe goes by many names, each appropriate and used based on the situation at hand, including:

The so-called “religious name,” God’s infinite Being. The so-called “scientific name,” Consciousness. The so-called “witness’s name,” Awareness. The so-called "common name,” I. The so-called “heartfelt name,” Presence. Other names: the true Self, the Now, Beauty, Peace, Happiness, Freedom, Meditation, Creation, and Love.

No matter what name you use, though, there’s no doubt about who or what we truly are.

Even the word universe is derived from the word unis

And unis means “ONE.”

Thanks for the mutual exploration,
Garret

Living Life

The articles you read here each week—indeed, all aspects of my work—are nothing more than an invitation. Rather than encouraging or supporting the seeking of solace, purpose, passion, or even love in the material world, they are an invitation to turn inward. An invitation to consider that you are made of what you seek. An invitation to examine the consequences of seeking in the relationships, activities, substances, and objects of the material world. An invitation to rigorously explore the Self.

To be crystal clear, however, these articles are not meant to recommend removing yourself from day-to-day life or discarding the material world in any way.

For example, knowing yourself as Consciousness, as opposed to a body made of matter, does not suggest the turning away from the upsets or insecurities that appear within. And in my work with teams or players, it definitely does not propose that there’s a right way to feel upon a loss or a win.

Nevertheless, some will claim that the work of teachers like me, teachers of true nature—which infers that from the perspective of Consciousness all experience is welcome—means that human beings are supposed to be OK no matter what occurs. That they don’t require support. That they shouldn’t try their hardest. That heartache is not actual.

But this is misunderstanding.

And, more important, it’s proof that teachers like me must do a better job. We must get real, authentic.

After all, if our work is about teaching the sameness or intimacy of all things, or about revealing that all objects (including thoughts, perceptions, and feelings) are made of Consciousness, of Love, why would we resist or discard anything?

Sure, in our writings, videos, or presentations, we teachers of true nature will pretty much take a beeline to true nature. We will be precise and unwavering. We will assert, without wiggle room, that all experiences, all of life, appear within Consciousness and are made of Consciousness.

In life itself, however, we must be open, non-discriminatory, and understanding. All concepts honored. Inquiry absent of animosity. No one blamed. All of it cherished.

In other words, it is precisely in light of the resoluteness with which we understand and then promote the exploration of Consciousness or the Self that teachers of true nature must set a resolute example of living life, and loving all of life, to the fullest.

Thanks for reading,
Garret

Why Share?

About ten times a week, I receive an email containing a comment like this:

“Garret, your viewpoint that there’s no such entity as a separate self or body is delusional and obviously incorrect. If your extremist positions are true, why do you (a body) share these emails with us (other bodies) every week? Why help anyone? Why share anything?"

Here’s why:

Because the obliteration of the belief that you are a separate body DOES NOT obliterate the appearance or illusion of separation. Knowing that separation is not real does not eliminate the appearance of separate selves and objects or the appearance of living in a world of separate selves and objects.

By way of analogy, understanding that the pools of water that appear in a desert are actually mirages does not eliminate the appearance of the pools of water. The pools appear, but their reality is known.

Bottom line? When you no longer believe that who you are is a separate object, you will still experience the illusion of an objective world. 

But you’re no longer OF that objective world.

In other words, because you now understand that you do not share the limits and destiny of an object (a separate self or body), defenses crumble; the need to protect fades away. You are now in the world as Freedom, Courage, and Love. You point away from all that is personal. Away from a reliance on or need for fame, fortune, security, substances, activities, or the existence of separate others.

You surrender, you’re open, you share without caution, motive, or effort—come what may.

Thanks for reading,
Garret






 

Courses

About five years ago, the noted psychologist George Pransky and I explored the value of certification courses and other programs that train coaches to coach, teachers to teach, or psychologists to be better psychologists. The implicit claim made by those running these courses (and similar courses that exist in other fields) is that by introducing participants to truth-bearing and life-changing principles, they’ll be in a better position to help others. Plus, these courses contend that knowing these principles can assist participants in building their practices or businesses too.

I was not in favor of these courses then, and I am still not today. 

And here’s why:

They don’t work. Plain and simple. Each of us bears proficiencies or talents. And while a course may be fun, may provide a sense of belonging, or may offer a temporary distraction or excursion, if your talents do not include the ability to coach, teach, or counsel—please save your money. No course or course leader can enhance a prowess that you do not possess.

What’s more, those running these programs should take a hard look at themselves. Hinting at outcomes is a slippery slope that the ego relishes. If you’re a coach, teacher, or counselor, and you believe that a certain approach or realization worked for you (made you feel better or improved your life), great. But you have no proof whatsoever that your belief applies to others. In fact, the insecurity or lack that you’re attempting to placate by sharing your beliefs under the guise of a program is actually your sign not to.

In short, this article is a plea to those running these types of courses to consider something vital: What, exactly, are you promising? Can you promise anything more than your unwavering presence, love, and support?

And to be clear, I’m including myself in this inquiry. Can I, Garret, promise a client, organization, or audience the keys to success? Of course not.

Group leader, coach, teacher, or counselor. These are sacred callings, the most trusted of titles. Others reach out to you because nothing has worked. If, as a group leader, you are subtly ensuring a result or implying that you can inspire someone to live a better or more purposeful life, you are betraying this trust. If you are closed-mindedly suggesting that your approach is the answer or is better than another approach, you are betraying this trust. If you are showcasing your own charisma, wit, intellect, stories, or achievements, you are betraying this trust. If you are using a basic understanding of human frailties as a concealed and perpetual marketing tool, you are betraying this trust.

Every person who walks through your door is seeking the road home; the road to Peace, Happiness, and Love. That can’t be found in you, your beliefs, or a certificate. It can’t be found in thoughts, feelings, states of mind, camaraderie, principles, service, more clients, or in anything from the objective world.

If you and your course, or your work in general, are bolstering the very source of one’s suffering—a yearning for and devotion to objects—I ask you to reconsider.

Thank you for doing so,
Garret

 

 

 

 

Keep Going, Keep Being You

As history reveals, nothing draws out the ire of human beings more than pointing to true nature. The mere proposition that we’re not separate entities, but, rather, a plethora of images composed of, and appearing within, a single Consciousness, is sure to bring sarcasm, mockery, and scorn.

Even in so-called spiritual communities—communities that seek solace, comfort, or quiet in spiritual doctrines or principles; communities that worship distinct objects, figureheads, or various versions of God; communities that promote the power to control one's thoughts, words, and deeds—this keeps taking place. As the ego (and its belief in separation and dependence on separation) gets wind that its days are numbered, it knows nothing else but war.

And so, here’s my suggestion for you today:

If you’re a teacher of true nature, if you’ve come to appreciate that the body-mind is not who you are, if you now understand that the true Self does not share the limits and fate of the separate self, if you realize that we share a Being—that “I and my Father are one”—be prepared. Backlash is coming.

This backlash, however, is not what it seems.

It is not war. It is not disagreement. There are no such things. For disagreement to be real, you must have separation. You must have duality. You must have two.

On the contrary, the backlash (which, as you get more precise in your sharing and in your life, will build) is a wonderful and necessary aspect of the journey home. It will challenge your knowing. It will push you past barriers. It will further dissolve programming. The ego’s backlash appears for one fortuitous reason: You’re no longer seeking solace in the objective or spiritually materialistic world.

This is why, with the support of fellow explorers, you must keep going. Keep sharing. Keep being YOU.

Who you are knows no conflict. Who you are sees all objects—including backlash and the ego at its root—as Love.

Thanks for reading,
Garret

 

 

The Oldest Trick in the Book

You know the trick.

In fact, like me in the distant past, you’ve probably employed it a time or two.

It’s the duplicitous (while innocent) psychological trick used by salespeople, ad agencies, motivational speakers, way too many preachers and politicians, and those seeking to gain control in relationships.

What is this oldest trick in the book?

Fortify separation and then provide, and take credit for, the cure.

To illustrate, here’s a common way that change workers (coaches, counselors, consultants, speakers) sell their services—in this case, the marketing copy for a seminar:

"For each of us and in our own personal way, life today presents all sorts of challenges. These challenges bring overwhelming insecurity, stress, and worry. But, thankfully, my simple approach to insecurity, stress, and worry has proved life changing for me and for others. Now, you too can finally find the sustained peace of mind you’ve been after. In fact, people return to my seminars year after year to reignite the wonderful sense of connection, passion, purpose, and love. Book your place today!"

In other words:

Step 1. Ingrain the belief that we are separate beings viewing life from a perspective of separation. 
Step 2. Rightly confirm that this belief and perspective brings with it all sorts of insecurity, stress, and worry. 
Step 3. Provide the “cure”—an approach, distraction, affirmation, meditation, communication or connection strategy—for the separation just ingrained.
Step 4. Generate a high of hope, a temporary good feeling.
Step 5. Note that, for the high to continue, you must come back for more!

Here’s another idea instead: Let’s say we abandon the oldest trick in the book for good.

How’s that accomplished?

Here you go:

Step 1. Explore inward. Discover that we’re not separate beings.
Step 2. Recognize that insecurity, stress, and worry are attributes of separate beings, not of who we truly are.
Step 3. Understand that, because we’re not separate beings, we don’t need to be cured of insecurity, stress, and worry. Good feelings or highs are unnecessary.
Step 4. Appreciate that, because we’re not separate beings, there’s no one to take credit—or blame.
Step 5. Come back for more? We’re cool, but thanks!

Lastly, if you’re guilty of fortifying the illusion of separation and then offering illusory cures, and, thus, this post rubs you the wrong way—good. It should.

Maybe you should get to know yourself a little better.

As I said, it’s innocent, if—in your business, marketing, friendships, on social media, or even in your family—you’re still employing the oldest trick in the book.

But who you truly are wouldn’t dare.

Thanks for reading,
Garret

Now More Than Ever

When you get right down to it, there are but two motivations for our actions:

1. We act as a manner of seeking who we are (Love, Happiness, Peace, Freedom).
2. We act as a manner of expressing who we are (Love, Happiness, Peace, Freedom).

In the first case (which totals 99 percent of our actions), here’s my suggestion for you today:

It is always more productive, for ourselves and the world, to turn that seeking or search inward, away from objects. And we define objects as anything that is known—such as the body, our habits, relationships, popularity, possessions, goals, careers, thoughts, feelings, or moods.

In other words, you cannot find who you are in who you are not. And you cannot improve or upgrade who you are not (an object) in order to find who you are. Trying to find the true Self by moving away from the true Self is impossible, and, as we’re witnessing these days, it can be perilous. 

Now more than ever, self-inquiry—”who am I?”—is vital.

Thanks for reading,
Garret