Self-belief Versus Self-doubt
This might sound simplistic (and surprising), but if you want to know whether or not a coach, counselor, psychologist, or any person understands how the human mind truly works, you might start with this question:
Is self-belief preferable over self-doubt?
If the answer is yes, then this person has bought into the illusion or myth that certain states of mind are better than others. If the answer is no, then this person has risen above it. In other words, the human experience is an inner one of constant change. Regardless of what’s happening on the outside, we’re designed to feel super-confident one minute and woefully insecure the next. Self-belief and self-doubt are actually two sides of the same coin. We’re not meant to choose one over the other.
In fact, due to the myth that human beings can deliberately choose self-belief, or that self-doubt can be deliberately willed away, we’ve created a world of victims who seem to be on a perpetual quest to fix something that’s not broken. Young people in particular. They’re told that confidence is essential for success (or that insecurity kills it). Then, when they don’t feel confident, many seek relief in a variety of coping methods—numbing themselves to the complete spectrum of what being alive really means. What often comes next is discipline (for using a coping method). They’re kicked off a team or out of school by the very coach/teacher who pointed them in a backward direction relative to confidence in the first place.
Isn’t it time we stop this cycle of misunderstanding? A person’s state of mind is the ultimate variable. His or her worth as a human being—the capacity to love, serve, and excel—is the ultimate constant. Self-belief is not better than self-doubt. Both are necessary. Both are guides. No matter what, if you’re experiencing a feeling, emotion, or state of mind, it cannot be abnormal.