As my clients will attest, it’s not unusual for me to close a conversation or text-message exchange with this basic statement:
But how come? What does this statement, as I use it, actually mean? And why is “being you” so important?
To put it simply, “be you” is my way of reminding others that—as a birthright—they are whole, resilient, and connected, regardless of how they feel at any moment in time. And that’s important because waking up to this fact stops them from attempting the impossible: trying to fix or control wayward feelings when they occur.
Here’s an example, by way of a question: Would professional golfers who grasp that all feeling states are normal (which they are), and have no impact on their propensity to excel (which they don’t), take the time to jam their heads with mental strategies, techniques, or someone else’s idea of how to behave on the golf course? Of course not. They’d never fall victim to the mind’s variable nature. To these players, managing or even monitoring their mindset’s an impractical path.
In a sense, then, being you is the opposite of searching for or seeking self-improvement. It’s a deep knowing that answers only rest within, and, positive or negative, there’s a greater plan at work. Being you fortifies intuition and triggers insight. It insulates you from the spell of gurus and tosses conformity (becoming a follower, automaton, or lackey) straight to the curb.
Besides, and perhaps most important, the man upstairs doesn’t care about perfection anyway. Just be you. As I said, you are whole, resilient, connected—and loved—as is. Forever.
Thanks for reading.