The Foundation

In my many years as coach or consultant, I’ve come across just about every psychological, motivational, or educational system on the market. Intellectual ones, zen ones; some born from research, some from life experience; some from trained experts, some from random dudes on social media. All of them well-meaning, most carefully considered, and some really… Read More

The Common Habit of Replacing Mistruth with Mistruth

You might not realize it, but every day, in a quest to ease our suffering, the self-help world encourage us to take mistruth and replace it with more mistruth. And since this obviously benefits no one, in this article, I’m going to point out some frequent examples of this and provide explanation for each. As… Read More

Victims of Circumstance

Twice in a row. On consecutive calls last week, I had players tell me that their hockey teams had fallen victim to circumstance the night before. What does it mean to fall victim to circumstance? It means to examine a life situation, make a negative assumption about what’s going to take place, and then to… Read More

The Key to Consistency

Here’s a brief article to remind you about the sole key to consistency—in sports, business, relationships, or anything you do: Understanding that inner ups and downs are normal. That’s it. The extent to which you grasp that it’s normal for thought (energy) to ebb and flow—and that it’s normal for your mood to trend with… Read More

Sticking With Truth

Here’s a quote that hangs on the locker room wall of a team I visited last week: “Your thinking creates your reality. So to avoid negativity, think positive thoughts.” Regrettably, these words reveal a common flaw—caused by a common misunderstanding—in the coaching profession (in counseling, teaching, and parenting, too). First, I’m going to talk about… Read More

Your True Power

Here’s an out-of-the-ordinary interchange that occurred between Liz, my wife, and me. My conclusion might surprise you. Yet it’s worthy of your reflection—and mine, too. — Last Monday evening, Liz accompanied me to a presentation that I was giving outside of London. It was a fabulous time. Moods were high, and the dialogue between me… Read More

Why It’s Unproductive to Try to Make Productive Choices

Here’s a brief, but important, video about the choices we make and how we make them. Hope you find it helpful. Garret

Why Our Thinking and Feelings Ebb and Flow

Since last week’s article, quite a few readers have reached out and asked about this paragraph: Within all of us, thought builds up, falls away, builds up, falls away, and so on. When it builds up, we feel bad—e.g., apprehensive and unworthy. When it falls away, we feel good. And, again, these feelings occur independent… Read More

The Jonah Complex

According to Wikipedia: “The Jonah Complex is the fear of success which prevents self-actualization or the realization of one’s potential. It’s the fear of one’s own greatness, the evasion of one’s destiny, or the avoidance of exercising one’s talent.” The name comes from the Biblical story of Prophet Jonah—and at all levels of sport, performance-based activities, or… Read More

In This Together

Whether you voted for Clinton or Trump: We’re in this together. Whether you’re feeling bad or good: We’re in this together. You see, no matter what happens on the outside, we all work the same way. When our thinking jams, we feel negative. When our thinking clears, we feel positive. This means that it’s actually… Read More