Why Is There Suffering?

Why is there self-centeredness? Because thought thinks it. Why is there inequality? Because thought thinks it. Why is there judgment? Because thought thinks it. Why is there fear? Because thought thinks it. Why is there insecurity? Because thought thinks it. Apart from thought, self-centeredness, inequality, judgment, fear, and insecurity do not exist. Thus, the answer… Read More

True Resilience

Where does resilience (or to some, grit or durability) truly come from? Is it learned? Is it practiced? Is it controlled? Is it worked at? No to all. In fact, all you have to do is consider the resilience of young children to appreciate that resilience doesn’t spring from any of those things. So, then,… Read More

Acting in Harmony, Absent of Responsibility

No doubt, a significant aspect of my work is to remind clients, teams, organizations, or audiences that no one is personally responsible—for anything. More precisely, it’s to remind them that: A. There’s no such thing as personal responsibility.  B. The more they come to grips with this fact, the more harmonious, dependable, and productive their… Read More

Insecurity and Attachment

Practically always, new clients, players, or coaches with whom I’m working, will talk about the “dreaded habit of insecurity.” They’ll claim to be insecure about this situation or that. They’ll seek to end this apparently detrimental experience. Plus, they’ll assume that part of my role is to help them cope their way out of it.… Read More

Further Away

As I often say to those who visit my New Jersey office, “If following our time together, the only outcome is that it no longer makes sense to employ mental tools, techniques, strategies, or practices for the purpose of finding the true Self (awareness, consciousness, or meditation)—then it’ll be well worth your trip.” But why?… Read More

Overlooking Imagination

Imagination is sometimes defined as: “A faculty of the mind or consciousness which forms and manipulates images.” Just ponder that definition for a minute. Rather than your experience (feelings, perceptions, sensations) being caused by people, places, things, and circumstances—is it actually possible that the mind or consciousness intuitively imagines the people, places, things, and circumstances… Read More

The Solution

The solution is simple. Yet, due to centuries of programming, it’s so far away. The solution is effortless. Yet, because of trying so hard to find it, it’s so far away. The solution is different; might seem strange, weird, or “out there.” Yet, since it takes courage to break away from the pack and go… Read More

Asking the Universe

Have you ever noticed that personal desires aren’t fulfilled? Seriously. Have you ever asked the universe, or prayed, for something to occur for your own benefit? A personal goal to be reached, a personal want to be satisfied, a personal problem to be solved? Didn’t work out so well—I know. Trouble is, we often take… Read More

What the “Mental Game” Requires

Here’s what the mental game doesn’t require: A.  Personal responsibility B.  Effort C.  Searching D.  Memorize E.  Practice F.  Repetition G.  Strategy H.  Mindfulness I.   Coping Here’s what the mental game does require: A.  Nothing Fact is, the only way to reinforce the plethora of so-called psychological issues that give rise to the need for… Read More

Where Leaders Go Wrong

As everyone can relate, the human experience vacillates between looking inside and looking outside; between harmony and discord; between clarity and clutter; between positivity and judgment; between confidence and insecurity; between yin and yang. And, as we’ve discussed the last few weeks, this vacillation can also be described as moving from the true Self (the… Read More