ARTICLES/VIDEOS

A New Venture

Dear Friends, I’m enthused to tell you about a new undertaking; a departure from my normal course of business. In 2018, I’m going to offer and conduct my first-ever, year-long program for coaches: Team Inside-Out. To be clear, Team IO is not a certification program. There will be no diploma or graduation upon completion. This… Read More

Trying to Separate Yourself from Negative People? Read This

I’m sure you’ve heard a version of this familiar mantra or strategy: “To soar with the eagles, don’t hang out with the turkeys.” Well, for your benefit and the benefit of others, in this post, I’m going to ask you to seriously reconsider following it. Here’s why: Deliberately separating yourself from another person because he… Read More

Knowing and Seeing

At the outset of one of my workshops, it’s not uncommon for me to kick things off by going around the room and asking each participant this question: “On a scale of 1 to 10, how deeply do you know that circumstances can’t cause feelings?” Answers always vary. But, invariably, someone in the group will… Read More

Searching For Gratitude

How many times in your life have you been asked this question? “What are you grateful for?” I bet the answer is plenty. And, be honest, during those moments, how often have you struggled to answer (you had to think and think about it) and how often has the answer flowed right out (you offered… Read More

Being You

As my clients will attest, it’s not unusual for me to close a conversation or text-message exchange with this basic statement: “Be you.” But how come? What does this statement, as I use it, actually mean? And why is “being you” so important? To put it simply, “be you” is my way of reminding others… Read More

True Flow

Flow is defined as “the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity.” Commonly described as “the zone,” flow, as defined, is a blissful feeling that athletes, performers, and all people seem to… Read More

Here’s the Truth: For the Field of Psychology, the Time Has Come

When it comes to my professional or working life, one of the most frequent criticisms thrown my way (and many of my colleagues, from Sydney Banks to Dr. Keith Blevens, have detailed a similar experience) revolves around my use of the word Truth. For instance, you’ve often heard me say, “It’s an unequivocal truth that… Read More

Self-belief Versus Self-doubt

This might sound simplistic (and surprising), but if you want to know whether or not a coach, counselor, psychologist, or any person understands how the human mind truly works, you might start with this question: Is self-belief preferable over self-doubt? If the answer is yes, then this person has bought into the illusion or myth… Read More

The Pitfalls of “Issue-Based” Coaching or Counseling

While, in my mind, it’s unfortunate, “issues-based” coaching (e.g., addiction specialists, marriage specialists, weight-loss specialists, or I-can-help-your-mental-game-in-golf specialists) seems to be the norm today. Trouble is, trying to help another person, or yourself, overcome a specific life issue by focusing on that issue drastically reduces the odds for development, insight, and achievement. We’ll get to… Read More

The Strangest, and Most Wonderful, Feeling in the World

Here’s a quick review of a conversation I had last week with a player I’ve been working with for about two years. It reveals the power of waking up to the fact that the human experience is, by nature, one of yin and yang; light and dark; positive and negative; spiritual and physical. A moment-to-moment… Read More