When to Listen to Your Thinking—and When to Discard It

Here are two questions I’m often asked: “When should I listen to my thinking?” “When should I discard it?” The answers are: never and always. Productive choices and behaviors occur instinctually. To illustrate, let’s say while in the midst of writing an article, I get a case of writer’s block. I then think that I need… Read More

Understanding Versus Trying to Control

Take a moment and reflect on this question: If your son were upset and claiming that a schoolmate had hurt his feelings, how would you respond? A. “Don’t let anyone hurt your feelings.” B. “No one has the power to hurt your feelings.” While the difference between A and B may appear subtle, it most… Read More

Normal Mistake, Normal Illusion

If you play shortstop in baseball, you’re going to miss groundballs. If you play golf, you’re going to miss short putts. If you play forward in hockey, you’re going to miss open nets. While these mistakes are normal aspects of playing these sports—they are still mistakes. Likewise, if you’re a human being, you’re going to… Read More

An Update on “Confidence”

What follows is an updated version of an article deemed “contrarian” by some. Let me know what you think… GK — Here’s some misinformation that I’ve heard while watching sports programs over the past few months: “Success breeds confidence.” This morning, for instance, I listened to a golf announcer ask a PGA tour player: “Did… Read More

True Control

Have you ever heard a coach, teacher, employer, or parent say: “Focus on the things you can control; don’t worry about what you can’t control”? I’ve heard it plenty, and it never sounded quite right. Just the other day, a well-known productivity expert gave an example of this line of thinking. He said, “You must… Read More

The Thought Police

They are everywhere: the thought police. In our churches and temples; in our schools and universities; on the coaching staffs of our sports teams, in our psychologists’ offices; in our meditation, hypnosis, and exercise classes; in our positive-thinking seminars; in our own families. Somewhere in the evolution of human beings, the notion that a person’s thoughts were controllable made its… Read More

More about “The Difference”

Here’s an updated re-post about the difference between a method (or a theory, strategy, or concept) and a truth. And why grasping this difference is important. The “Atkin’s Diet” is a method. Purposely going through a routine before you hit a golf shot is a method. Trying to think positively when you feel down is a… Read More

Kids Know Better—Take Two

Here’s another update on an article from a few years back (a portion of it can also be found in my new book). The article received many interesting responses from readers like you. I welcome more of them, so feel free to reach out to me. Garret — Invariably, when I talk to adults about… Read More

Twelve Intuitive Signs of a Low State of Mind

In keeping with my “best of” theme of the past few weeks, here’s an updated version of an article from 2012 that received a lot of interest (a portion of it can also be found in my new book). I hope you still find the direction revealed in this article relevant. — Awareness. That’s the… Read More

Ten Things to Consider When Your State of Mind is Low and You Want to Feel Better—An Update

Like last week, here’s an update on one of my most popular articles. I hope you find it helpful.  — “What can I do to raise my state of mind?” is a question I’m often asked. Well, as I’ve said before, the answer is nothing specific. But perhaps, when you feel down, these ten reminders… Read More