ARTICLES/VIDEOS

Being You

As my clients will attest, it’s not unusual for me to close a conversation or text-message exchange with this basic statement: “Be you.” But how come? What does this statement, as I use it, actually mean? And why is “being you” so important? To put it simply, “be you” is my way of reminding others… Read More

True Flow

Flow is defined as “the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity.” Commonly described as “the zone,” flow, as defined, is a blissful feeling that athletes, performers, and all people seem to… Read More

Here’s the Truth: For the Field of Psychology, the Time Has Come

When it comes to my professional or working life, one of the most frequent criticisms thrown my way (and many of my colleagues, from Sydney Banks to Dr. Keith Blevens, have detailed a similar experience) revolves around my use of the word Truth. For instance, you’ve often heard me say, “It’s an unequivocal truth that… Read More

Self-belief Versus Self-doubt

This might sound simplistic (and surprising), but if you want to know whether or not a coach, counselor, psychologist, or any person understands how the human mind truly works, you might start with this question: Is self-belief preferable over self-doubt? If the answer is yes, then this person has bought into the illusion or myth… Read More

The Pitfalls of “Issue-Based” Coaching or Counseling

While, in my mind, it’s unfortunate, “issues-based” coaching (e.g., addiction specialists, marriage specialists, weight-loss specialists, or I-can-help-your-mental-game-in-golf specialists) seems to be the norm today. Trouble is, trying to help another person, or yourself, overcome a specific life issue by focusing on that issue drastically reduces the odds for development, insight, and achievement. We’ll get to… Read More

The Strangest, and Most Wonderful, Feeling in the World

Here’s a quick review of a conversation I had last week with a player I’ve been working with for about two years. It reveals the power of waking up to the fact that the human experience is, by nature, one of yin and yang; light and dark; positive and negative; spiritual and physical. A moment-to-moment… Read More

The Irrelevance of Mindset

Here, to me, is one of the most confounding misconceptions springing from the worlds of self-help and psychology: The advice that people should wait for their heads to clear, or do something to try to make their heads clear, before they take action. Indeed, this misconception seems to paralyze more and more folks each day.… Read More

Nordstrom Culture

Last week, I had dinner with my friend, colleague, and mentor, Keith Blevens. Among the topics we covered was a team I’m working with whose coaches decided to eliminate prescribed goals, codes of conduct, or expectations of any kind. I mentioned that the behavior of the players on the team, both on and off the… Read More

My Dilemma and Yours

This week, I write to my students, clients, and colleagues. If that’s not you, read on anyway. A takeaway or two is waiting. G — I admit it. At times, I blame my upsets on those experts in the fields of self-help, mental coaching, and psychology who propagate this dual misunderstanding (the outside-in misunderstanding): Something… Read More

Free Will?

Man, did last week’s article (http://garretkramer.com/the-heart-of-choice/) create a stir—at least in my inbox. You guys either loved the direction I pointed or thought it was crazy. To be specific on the crazy, most disagreement revolved around the question of free will. One of you said: “You can’t tell me that human beings don’t have the… Read More