True Control

Have you ever heard a coach, teacher, employer, or parent say: “Focus on the things you can control; don’t worry about what you can’t control”? I’ve heard it plenty, and it never sounded quite right. Just the other day, a well-known productivity expert gave an example of this line of thinking. He said, “You must… Read More

The Thought Police

They are everywhere: the thought police. In our churches and temples; in our schools and universities; on the coaching staffs of our sports teams, in our psychologists’ offices; in our meditation, hypnosis, and exercise classes; in our positive-thinking seminars; in our own families. Somewhere in the evolution of human beings, the notion that a person’s thoughts were controllable made its… Read More

More about “The Difference”

Here’s an updated re-post about the difference between a method (or a theory, strategy, or concept) and a truth. And why grasping this difference is important. The “Atkin’s Diet” is a method. Purposely going through a routine before you hit a golf shot is a method. Trying to think positively when you feel down is a… Read More

Kids Know Better—Take Two

Here’s another update on an article from a few years back (a portion of it can also be found in my new book). The article received many interesting responses from readers like you. I welcome more of them, so feel free to reach out to me. Garret — Invariably, when I talk to adults about… Read More

Twelve Intuitive Signs of a Low State of Mind

In keeping with my “best of” theme of the past few weeks, here’s an updated version of an article from 2012 that received a lot of interest (a portion of it can also be found in my new book). I hope you still find the direction revealed in this article relevant. — Awareness. That’s the… Read More

Ten Things to Consider When Your State of Mind is Low and You Want to Feel Better—An Update

Like last week, here’s an update on one of my most popular articles. I hope you find it helpful.  — “What can I do to raise my state of mind?” is a question I’m often asked. Well, as I’ve said before, the answer is nothing specific. But perhaps, when you feel down, these ten reminders… Read More

Do You Use Mental Techniques? Here’s Why They’re Not Working—Volume Two

I’m back. Well, sort of. Here’s an updated version of an article that first appeared on this blog a couple years back. In fact, it’s one that I refer to often. It should provide some valuable reminders for you as well. — If you’re familiar with my work, you’re probably aware that I believe that… Read More

A Short Break

Friends, This week, I’m writing to say that I’m going to take a short break from my weekly articles. With the second edition of The Path of No Resistance finally off to print, the time is right for me to put down the pen for a bit. However, I’m always at work here, so I encourage you… Read More

From Me to You

As a change of pace this week, I thought the following correspondence from me to a client and friend (an athlete with a keen grasp of the inside-out paradigm) might be of interest. I hope you find it helpful. Garret — Here’s something to consider today bud: Trying to fix, cope, or strategize in a… Read More

Experts: It’s Time to Wake Up

Consider the implications of this black-and-white statement: All violent acts, harmful decisions, and disastrous mistakes originate from this dual misunderstanding: What a person feels on the inside is coming from a circumstance on the outside. If a person feels bad, he or she can strategically address the circumstance or alter the environment believed to be… Read More