At the Heart of Thankfulness

This is how thankfulness (gratitude) works—for everyone: When our minds are cluttered, we don’t feel thankful. When our minds are clear, we do feel thankful. In truth, thankfulness has nothing to do with the world outside (our circumstances). Like any feeling or emotion, thankfulness is directly connected to our thinking. And because my head is… Read More

Terror Versus Truth

Considering the horrific acts of last week, the world has endured an emotional few days. Here, I’m going to do my best to ease the unrest a bit. And I’m going to start by pointing out the obvious: Everyone has a different personal opinion about what the free world should do to combat terror. Some… Read More

Back in Time

In the late 1800’s, Sigmund Freud formed a causal link in his own mind that didn’t really exist. He theorized that taking distressed patients back to their past—for the purpose of pinpointing the root cause of their distress—was the key to helping them. While it was obvious to Freud that this practice wasn’t always successful,… Read More

How Greg Hardy Looks to Me

Greg Hardy did damage. His actions were completely unacceptable. But like Greg Hardy, I’ve done damage. My behavior, a few times in my life, has been completely unacceptable. And the same goes for you and the many people who have jumped on the bandwagon of judgment. I know what you’re thinking: “That may be true,… Read More

Power Versus Control

Virtually every day a performance expert will tell us: “Control the things you can control, and don’t worry about the things you can’t.” The implication is that there are certain inside things—attitude, effort, and happiness—that we do have the power to control. While there are outside things—the behavior of an opponent, the calls of a… Read More

Slings and Arrows

If I understand anything about my own work—teaching, writing, and speaking about the fact that there is not a true connection between our feelings, the circumstances of our lives, and our ability to perform—it’s that when you challenge a common mode of thinking you will be ridiculed. Slings and arrows will come your way. Not… Read More

Instant Truth

Here’s an interesting personal story about the power of truth, and how you just never know. Recently, I received a call from the lawn-care company we use at home. The company wasn’t happy with the condition our yard and offered to aerate it for free. I responded, “Thanks, but can you just aerate the problem… Read More

The Five Myths of “Thinking” Like a Champion

In my work with sports teams, high-performing athletes, and organizations, it’s becoming more and more standard for me to address falsehoods propagated by mental-performance coaches. These coaches mean well; they want to help their clients think like champions. But, unfortunately, most of them believe in the widespread and longstanding myths that actually hurt, rather than help, performance. In… Read More

Bolstering the Illusion

Extreme good fortune. That’s how I describe the fact that, for whatever reason, many years ago God hit me with this revelation: What I (and all people) feel on the inside is not the result of what’s happening—or has happened, or might happen—on the outside. When this revelation hit, five things instantaneously changed for me:… Read More

The “Mental Game,” Thirty Common Misconceptions

What follows are the thirty most common misconceptions about mental performance, and coaching the mental game, that I’ve come across over the past few weeks. I’ve listed them without further explanation with hope that you’ll reflect on each and draw your own conclusions. 1. A mental coach’s job is to impart information or strategy. 2.… Read More